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Outgrowing the Life You’ve Known: The Loneliness & Loss of Blossoming (a re-cap)

So here’s a very brief re-cap of the article in my email newsletter this month “Outgrowing the Life You’ve Known: The Loneliness & Loss of Blossoming.”  (Sign up to get the newsletter here) Loneliness is one of the “problems” with growing. Sometimes, in order to connect with yourself, you have to separate from what you’ve known. The aliveness of love will ruin your chances of stagnation. It will call you out. Success demands loss.  Sometimes, we have to let go of waning definitions, circumstances, or relationships that no longer reflect us so that we can blossom wide… I’d Rather Lose a Friend, than Lose Myself So I’m moving on. I’m taking that love with me. I’m no longer looking for support where it’s not. I’m also not making myself wrong for wanting support. I don’t care how brilliant you are on stage, how many trophies line your walls, or how much money you sock away in investments, this I know. We are all fragile, especially if we’re courageous. Those of us who continue to grow, continue to step out onto new ledges. We continue to move beyond what we have known into the beckoning of uncertainty. Yes, I have my Beloved within. Yes I know I am safe at all times in this Universe. And yes, I finally love myself enough to want to be, at least in my inner circle, around people who want the best for me at all times. This isn’t narcissistic neediness, as my inner critic has sometimes roared in journals. This is self-respect. So I’m clearing the space. I’m not reaching out to this individual anymore, even in times when I’m going through something I’d want to share. I’m opting for loneliness rather than smallness. I’d rather lose a friend, than lose myself. I’m doing inner house-cleaning, waving an emotional smudge stick, and, screw furniture placement, I’m opting for some relationship Feng shui. This is real growth for me.… I’m opting for loneliness rather than smallness. I’d rather lose a friend, than lose myself. I’m doing inner house-cleaning, waving an emotional smudge stick, and, screw furniture placement, I’m opting for some relationship Feng shui. This is real growth for me.   ©2012 Tama Kieves. All rights reserved. Tama Kieves has been featured on Oprah Radio and is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! Create the Work You Love and her latest Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in […]

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Your Guarantee in a Brilliant Career Transition and Awesome Life

“I want to do the work I love—are there guarantees?” When you’re in a career transition or you’re daring to pursue some beckoning wild-haired desire, this is what you want to know.  So let’s talk turkey– or tofu, if you prefer. Is there a guarantee that if you fall in love, the man or woman of your dreams won’t skid off the road one rainy night –or off center into the arms of another?  If you have a child, is there a guarantee that child won’t be born with defects or maybe, later, say, when they’re eight years old, turn your meditation sanctuary into a meth lab?  There are always risks. But you do it anyway, because love is a festival you don’t want to miss.  You sign up to go on the ride.  You purchase the ticket and march into the land of the living.  And in every hospital, every long-time nurse will tell you the same thing. When someone is dying, they almost always regret the risks they didn’t take, not the ones they did. So, it goes when you decide to write that screen play.  Start that online coaching business. Or visit the Irish countryside without a definition or a plan, but just an urge to traipse, see, and discover the experience.  You just don’t know what will come of it.  There are no linear guarantees. But here’s what you do know—here’s the reality that will never be captured by facts and statistics. In your lifetime, you will have dared what you believed in.  You will have given yourself every chance to have the life you desire, instead of writing it off, tucking it away in the back drawer of resignation, dusty with the ashes of your broken heart. You will enjoy the moments of doing what you love—the moments liberation surprises you, a love you have never known, the feeling of being redeemed, seamless, strong and free.  You will bask in times when you are present to the sacred, or a salty breeze caresses your eyelashes as you walk along the coastline on a Wednesday and forgive an ancient limitation.  Or a lyric lights itself on your heart, or you photograph a silver fern in the forest that no one else will ever see.  You will know a different sense of the divine because you have allowed yourself to receive more in your days.  You will […]

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Finally, How to Live Your Dreams: Become an Unstoppable Warrior for Your Life’s Work and Desires

(This article is loosely adapted from my new book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! by Tama Kieves) The question I hear most as a career/success coach is HOW do I live my dreams? How can I take what I love and turn it into a living, an empire, or a sapphire on the crown of fame? But I know that it’s not the concrete tasks that will unleash a destiny. It’s not about “sensible” actions. It’s the love and drive of “irrational” desire. I don’t want my clients just taking actions. I want these precious souls to take inspired actions. Here’s my answer to HOW to live your dreams: It’s all about the mojo. Indulge me, as I quote myself from Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! (and indulge me—as a proud mother– as I tell you the book recently hit #1 on Amazon.com for Career guides!!) “Here’s what I know from coaching thousands of creative individuals and visionary entrepreneurs. It’s all about the mojo. The mojo unleashes the electricity that turns a light into an obliteration of darkness and an act of God. Wild success isn’t about going through the motions. It’s not even about staying in motion. This isn’t about your legs. It’s about the light in your eyes, the fire on your tongue, and the sweep of your heart. When you’re bouncing off the wall with voltage and star power, and as long as your hair looks good, nothing can withstand you for long.” So how do you get that mojo—you ask. Clever you. You are hoping for the trail map, so as to get somewhere. But as your new paradigm shape-shifting mentor, I want to help you to tap an inner fire and forget about chalky projections and guides.  I want you to burn with desire—and then conviction. A fire will take you places that a map never will. You are not looking for information. You are craving transformation.  Someone could tell you “how to do your dreams,” and your brain will nod with comfortable satisfaction, but you won’t change a single strand of hair on the head of your life. You’ll tuck the workbook into your desk drawer, and you will stay barren and unmoved.  Let’s face it. You’re not looking to bake a sheet cake. You’re looking to find a way to burst with joy and, finally, feel as though you can breathe, maybe as you […]

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Some Very Personal and Awesome Moments from My Book Tour

I’ve recently returned from being on the road on book tour in the leafy Northwest: Portland, Oregon, Vancouver, BC, and Seattle, Washington.  The trip was beaded with magic.  It was an exceptionally social trip, filled with meeting loved ones, professionally and personally, and I felt as though every conversation/ experience handed me a piece of a jig saw puzzle.  I didn’t know how disjointed I’d felt, until I felt whole, shining, and connected again.  I wanted to share some moments. Visiting with C who lost her husband I sat on C’s back deck in Portland, Oregon, amidst very tall trees, shimmering green, and a neighbor’s rooster crowing in the middle of the day.  It was a sanctuary, on every level.  C had recently lost the love of her life to cancer.  He died at home.  She is raising a 7 year old son.  My life situation is completely different.  But there was this bizarre overlap, the presence of unfamiliarity embedded into all transitions.  I am stepping into this new big field in my life and, while chosen, it feels unsettling; there is a loss of identity.  C and I both felt as though we were meeting at the crossroads of our lives, having the deepest, purest conversation.  Time stopped. Here’s the very weird thing.  I didn’t know that C had lost her husband.  I didn’t know she lived in Portland.  When she saw I’d be touring in her area, she wrote and invited me to stay with her.  It immediately felt right and nurturing.  I had loved her many years ago, and we’d fallen out of contact, through the distance and the demands of our lives.  But when she told me what was going on, I felt this deep hush surround me.  I dropped into heart space.  I was no longer “on tour.”  I was in the moment.  I was in this holy moment.  I felt so grateful to be there at this important juncture.  I marveled at how the Universe hooked us up again at just this time. Praying in front of the Mormon Church Paul and I have been feeling increasingly frustrated and overwhelmed by the business demands of our business.  As I’ve launched a brand new website, and a brand new book, we are beginning to realize that with this growth curve, we need to hire some excellent vibrant smart people to be on our team.  We […]

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The Secret to More Energy: Using Your Unused Gifts

I talked to a woman who had been very gifted in music, but who hadn’t pursued it as an adult. “I am afraid of failing,” she said, but as we talked further, she admitted in the quiet tones of held back truth, that she felt like a failure now. She felt tired and angry, out of sorts with her life. I don’t blame her. It takes more effort to create a life you don’t want than to create the life you crave. An unused gift is a keg of dynamite. It’s dangerous. It leaks out and begins to poison you. It haunts your cells with a hoarse song, “use me or die, use me or die.” Your gifts are powerful energy sources. It takes so much energy to hold back life. It hurts to choose smallness. It hurts to let yourself down in secret ways, muffling the cries that no one else hears. It hurts to resist the evolutionary instinct within you to grow, express, go beyond survival and thrive, and stake your one true place upon this planet. Brother David Stendl Ross said “The answer to exhaustion is not rest. It’s wholeheartedness.” Doesn’t that make you sit up straight or want to volunteer to be put on active duty in your life? I know it’s true. After I left a high paced legal career, I spent a year napping, and wandering in my own home like a small child lost at the mall. I’d keep seeing familiar things, but I couldn’t find any bearing. I felt exhausted and burdened and overwhelmed. Finally, I realized that I was “resting” in order to avoid myself. I wasn’t exhausted by my efforts in life, but by my lack of efforts—my lack of dedication to do the things that mattered most to me. An unused gift (or one you don’t take all the way to harvest) will quietly annihilate your life. I think it’s a national threat. I think the Surgeon General should put it up there with smoking cigarettes, asbestos, uranium, and, maybe, mean small-spirited people who run for office. It’s not that you’ll keel over because you didn’t start taking photographs or take the trip you always wanted to take. But you will walk off kilter. Your heart will beat with labor as though it has to pick up an extra thousand pounds. Your hair may be brittle and your voice […]

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Crossing Thresholds in Life: The Second You Give Yourself the Chance to Succeed, You’ve Already Succeeded.


“He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.” Muhammed Ali
It always feels vulnerable to make a change in your life—cross a threshold: to open a gluten-free bakery; Date a new person; Leave your accounting firm to hike in Nepal for a year.  The lizard-brain within will focus exclusively on what you can lose, and really, how you will surely die.  But I want you to know how much power and joy you’ll gain by getting your feet muddy in this life.  Sure, you may feel more uncertain even as you head towards greater possibility.  But know this: The second you give yourself the chance to succeed– you’ve already succeeded.  
I am about to walk through a new door in my life subtly marked “Big Freaking Change.”  I am about to put my new book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! (Tarcher/Penguin) into the world on August 30th

Let’s just say, that while I want this change in my life more than anything else, I find myself acting like I’m going to a dentist or something, and then wanting to bury these feelings and act like someone who greets change with bubbling toasts of champagne–instead of Advil.  People innocently say to me, “You must be so excited about the release of your new book.”  I don’t exactly want to tell them that I have a fat gray sewer rat gnawing at my brain.  I don’t know, it just doesn’t sound like the kind of thing you’d want to hear from the woman who publishes a book on wildly succeeding in your life’s work.

But, then, I read this passage in Bird by Bird by the best-selling author Anne Lamott and I felt like licking the book cover afterward with gratitude.  “The months before a book comes out of the chute are, for most writers, right up there with the worst life has to offer, pretty much like the first twenty minutes of Apocalypse Now with Martin Sheen in the hotel room in Saigon, totally decompensating.  The waiting and the fantasies, both happy and grim, wear you down.”

Then it all makes sense.  As a coach, I work with helping people change their lives all the time.  And it’s never the actual situation that grinds them down.  It’s the fantasies.  When we’re walking into the unknown, it’s like we’re walking into Times Square with a thousand lights, choices, scenarios flashing all at once.  In real life, we’ll only have one outcome.  But in the fantasies before then, there are hundreds of balls up in the air, and you’re practicing responses to every one of them.

My mind, in fear, goes to extremes.  My fantasies are never in the middle.

What if my book doesn’t do well?  What if it’s like one of those Roman Candles that shoot high into the coal black night sky but then doesn’t explode or flare in beauty?  What if I just fizzle in mid-air for all to see?  And then when I’m heartsick and homeless, swilling caseloads of Wild Turkey, ducking my eyes, I’ll hear the whispers, some real, some now coming from the voices that I’ve begun to hear, “Guess, she didn’t ‘wildly succeed in her life’s work.’ ”

Or what if my success spins out of control?  What if I get addicted to success, like some sullen opium addict, tuning out intimate friends, crisp orange Autumn days, and eventually even sustenance like Diet Pepsi, because I can no longer tear my eyes away from watching myself on T.V. talk shows, lip syncing my own words like a gold fish?  What if I end up being so famous, I can’t leave my house because the paparazzi want to know if I’m writing in my journal again or going back to Walmart today?

And so it goes.

But here’s the real story.

It is so important to move into situations where you feel vulnerable.  It’s so healthy to get in over your head, so that your Essence can finally take over.  It’s what makes you sweat, pray, scramble through your bag of tricks, and then finally tear through the veils of this life, reach higher, and discover even more of your true potential.  It’s an initiation.  It’s a birth.  And who doesn’t come into the most exquisite moments of really being alive without some hesitation, awe, and palpitation?

It takes courage to be really alive—and chase the light.  Life’s thresholds are always laced with wildness.  And the unfamiliar will always speed up your heart and magnify your senses.  You will never regret the moments you chose to go beyond what you knew before.  In the end of days, when the minutes run out on this video adventure game called life, you regret the moments you didn’t.

So, finally, I realize what I need to do.  I want to cherish the part of me who is frightened.  I need to stop telling myself I “shouldn’t feel this.” Instead, I know I have these feelings because I’m growing, going to my next edge.  It’s universal to tremble when you’re daring to go for a success you haven’t had before.  It’s easy to feel confident when you’re doing the same things.  It takes even more confidence to move into the unknown.

So I come back to what I know to do for myself.  I come back to the bedrock and rocket fuel of self-love.

When I first began teaching at an adult education center back in the eighties in a run-down red brick building in an urban neighborhood, I had a ritual of going into the women’s room before I taught a class.  I’d be nervous, tight, butterflies in my chest cavity.  “I can’t do this,” I’d think to myself.  “I don’t know if I can walk into that room and lead a group of paying strangers.”

Then, making absolutely certain that no one else was in any of the stalls, I’d lean into the mirror.  I’d look into my eyes, tiny, worried squirrel eyes.  I’d say with authority.  “I am so proud of you right now. I am so proud of you for trying.  I don’t care what happens in that room.  This is the only thing that matters.  You’re amazing for being afraid and moving forward anyway.  You are giving yourself a chance to succeed, a chance to rise.  You rock.  You’ve already won.  Nothing that happens in that classroom can change how I see you right now and forever.  I see a warrior.  I see a superstar.  I see someone who is not letting fear make the decision about what kind of life she can have.  ” Since that time, I’ve spoken to audiences of more than a thousand at a time.  I’m grateful my younger self talked herself into giving me the chance to become who I am.

So now, at this precious threshold in my life, just weeks before I release my second book into the world, I am doing the same thing again, only not in the women’s room.  I am turning the outside world into soft focus, muting the sounds, until I hear my own voice.  “I love you Tama for all you are doing,” says the deepest voice I know.  “I love you for trembling and being alive and reaching higher and giving yourself this chance in life.  It doesn’t matter what happens out there.  It matters what happens here, at the threshold.  I am watching you soar, precious one, by taking this holy step forward, by giving yourself a chance to experience a life which you have not experienced before.  I am your advocate.  I am the truth about you. No matter what happens out there, I am your witness.  I know what this moment in your life means to you.  And I know that you chose to show up.  You chose electricity instead of habit.  I have a little secret for you.  You’re already on the other side.

Welcome, to an amazing new life.  You made it.” 

                                              ***

So, maybe there’s a threshold you’re about to cross in your life. It may be one you’ve chosen consciously or one you did not choose consciously. I’d suggest deciding the outcome right now. Decide to side with yourself, no matter what. Maybe, just like grooms carry their brides across the threshold, you will decide to carry yourself. Write yourself a love note at this juncture. Talk to the mirror. Seeing your own courage and grace is the only true success there is. It’s what you really crave. And you can have it right now. The world is not as scary when you’re walking forward with self-love.

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Between Choices of How to Live


This is all about keeping my promise to myself, that much I know.
But which promise?
The promise to succeed?  To run headlong into the day and stack up plastic prizes on my side of the game board?  Or was there a deeper promise– made anciently and silently– and then forgotten, except in moments of hunger for things I cannot name. 
I will be kind to you, no matter what.  I will be your friend.  I will face this life with you—with intentional eyes—and I will be kind and encouraging through all of it.
I often suffer from a secret guilt.  I should be doing more.  I stand with a shovel in my hand, a mound of dirt I’ve dug, and still there is this nagging feeling this is too little—you should get about the business of doing more.  I want to cry.  I ache. And still I cannot turn away from this voice.  It is a drug.  It is a compulsion.  It is a madwoman within me.  And she has the loudspeaker. 
There is another voice within me that I don’t yet fully embrace. 
This voice tells me, there is another way. 
Be easy, she says. 
Be brave. 
Be brave enough to turn your back on all the self-responsibility and delusions of control.  Be God’s child.  Be Life’s favorite.  Be a presence of self-forgiveness and draw all the beautiful to you.  You do not want this life of digging your own grave. You do not want this life of battling your way there.  
You want kindness.  You want a redemption you do not understand.  You want to listen.  You want to trust.  You want to fall down, crumple up, and be carried by the wind.  You want your own love and mercy most of all.  You have to breathe. You want your life to feel sacred because when it does not, it is not life– and you are tired of the having of it.
These are the voices that speak to me in every incident of every day.  This is the choice I am called to make in this lifetime.
More and more, I am letting go of conditioning.  I still wrestle with doubt like a python that will not quit.  But more and more, I am discovering a stubborn will, a daredevil devotee, a culmination of belief, and I am making other choices gradually, choices that take every doubt away.
 
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Tama J. Kieves has been featured on Oprah Radio and is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! Create the Work You Love.  She is a sought-after speaker and career coach who has helped thousands worldwide discover and live their true work in the world.  Sign up at ThisTimeIDance.com to receive the free monthly email newsletter with Tama’s latest articles (and events).  
For daily inspiration, continuous support & great group conversation, join Tama onFacebook and Twitter.  Look for her new book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work(Tarcher/Penguin) in August 2012.  You can pre-order it on Amazon and Barnes & Noble right now!

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Join Me in the Inspired Revolution


Dear Brilliant Ones, Fans + Passion-seekers,
I want to live in a world where everyone is doing the work they’re meant to do.
There are millions of people in this world that feel depressed because they have unlived or half-lived dreams within them.  They may not believe they can find a passion or that they can thrive in the love they want to bring this world.  I know that there is untapped brilliance in each of us: songs, books, cures, environmental sustainability, and the end of hunger, prejudice and other ills.  I want to help inspire and support others in living their vision — which can help many others in the world.  I believe it’s time for an Inspired Revolution.  I know there is another way to work and live.  I am living it.
I’ve been privileged to reach many thousands with my first book This Time I Dance! Creating the Work You Love.  I am humbled and awed by the profound changes readers tell me they’ve made. I’ve also met many courageous souls at my retreats and workshops.
On August 30th I am launching a new book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in your Life’s Work! (Tarcher/Penguin) I am thrilled it has already been praised and endorsed by Michael Beckwith, Jack Canfield, Marci Shimoff, Kris Carr, SARK, and many others.  One Spirit Book Club has just licensed it as well.  In the weeks to come, I’ll tell you more about the book.
But right now, I’m reaching out to you to see if you’d like to join me in this Inspired Revolution.  I believe in grass roots love and energy.  Here’s my undertaking: I am putting myself on the road, to talk at bookstores, colleges, spiritual centers, business groups, etc. to help people stay in touch with their dearest dreams, their fire, the reason they’re here.  I’m not just trying to sell a book.  I want to be a voice and a presence for another belief system in this world.  I want everyone to know they’re meant to succeed in the work they love.  (No, alas, my publisher does not pay for a tour or marketing.)  
I would love your help in getting this work into the world.  We all have different resources to offer, different vegetables for the stew.  You can make a tremendous difference to me, to this work, and to those who have cutting-edge movies to make, yoga studios to open, medical breakthroughs to discover, and need to be inspired to stay with their vision.  What would it be like to believe in your dreams, if that was encouraged and supported by the mainstream?  It takes a village and a bunch of hearts (and tweets) to get a message into the mainstream—especially a positive message.  I’d love your help in any way that feels natural or exciting to you—in getting this work out there.  You will know who you are and I am already grateful for you.
Here’s a passage from Inspired & Unstoppable:
“There is nothing wavy gravy about believing in your wildest dreams.  Your inspired inner voice is as real as bunions or a bouillon soup.  It’s not putting your head in the sand to believe in a higher intelligence than mass consciousness.  It’s putting your head in the game.  Love is the strongest power on the planet.”
So I’m brainstorming specific requests here, but if none of them fit you, no worries. 
Do you know any social media evangelists/PR/marketing people who want to use their talents to set the world on fire?
Do you know media people in Phoenix, Denver, Boulder, Seattle, Portland, Vancouver, BC, San Diego, San Francisco, Chicago, Overland Park, Boston, Mass?These are some of the stops on my upcoming tour.  Of course, if you know Oprah or Ellen or anyone in national media, then stop reading this email and call us!
Would you like to make a financial contribution to help sponsor a leg of the initial book tour?  Or help create a marketing budget?  Or lodging in a city?  (Or a 16 oz. Jamba Juice?)
Do you write for (or know someone who writes for) any magazines, major blogs, etc?
Can you bring me in to speak at an organization?
Would you be willing to share an announcement about Inspired & Unstoppable (and some fun special offers) with your email list? groups? tribe? radio or t.v. shows?  Let us know; we will get you wording.
Can you “Like” my Facebook Fan page (Tama Kieves) and share it with your loved ones and friends?  Forget what you think about facebook.  Think daily free coaching, positive tips, honest realizations, and love.  We are already an amazing community of artists, visionaries, entrepreneurs, and meaning-seekers, over five thousand strong, sharing our lives.  Grow our tribe.
Or maybe you have some great creative ideas for having this message make the difference it can make in this world?
I’ve set up a special email for you.
Please send me your thoughts, ideas, support or questions to [email protected].
I would love to hear from you!
While I may not be able to respond to everyone personally, though I’ll try, I am going to thank you in advance for your support and love.  I’ve already felt supported by each and every one of you. You signed up to be on my list and receive my newsletter.  You are already part of the Inspired Revolution.  You are shifting the way you think and choose in this world.  I am so grateful for your companionship and dedication.  
I leave you with this thought from Inspired & Unstoppable, urging you to follow the power of your love: “We are not ridiculous or fragile for believing in love, strength, and astronomical possibilities…It’s not crazy to dedicate ourselves to a life that feels true, empowering, and exciting.  It’s just plain crazy not to.”
With all my love.  Inspired and Unstoppably Yours,
TAMA
P.S. Yes, just in case you’re wondering, it is scary to send out a letter like this.  But I don’t want to let my own inhibitions get in the way, of something that could have happened, because I asked
 
 
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Tama Kieves has been featured on Oprah Radio and is the bestselling author of This Time I Dance! Create the Work You Love.  She is a sought-after speaker and career coach who has helped thousands worldwide discover and live their true work in the world.  Sign up at ThisTimeIDance.com to receive the free monthly email newsletter with Tama’s latest articles (and events).  
For daily inspiration, continuous support & great group conversation, join Tama on Facebook and Twitter.  Look for her new book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work (Tarcher/Penguin) in August 2012.  You can pre-order it right now!
 

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I am Making Overwhelm Give Me Gifts


I’m going through what I’ll generously call a growth spurt.  It feels like a tornado, but, hey, I opened the door.
Launching a new book into the world, and a new website.  (Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! being published by Tarcher/Penguin launches Aug 30th)  I feel like I am falling behind in all my deadlines—but only because I am. 
Overwhelm is a very hot, stifling country, I tell you, much like lunch hour in mid-town Manhattan in August.  I gasp for air like a fish on a dock.  But I’m learning. That’s the kind of girl I am.  I’d be in a war, but I’d be taking notes on how I’m dealing with it.  So here’s my silver lining in this “golden opportunity.”  This is what I’ve gleaned so far.
Overwhelm…
1.Makes you simplify.  You will get crystal clear or you will die.  Trust me, you will get crystal clear.  It’s amazing what no longer seems important.  Look– your garden has turned into a jungle.  You haven’t had a pedicure since last year, the ants in your kitchen have invited their friends for a banquet– nothing bothers you now.  You are a laser beam of concentrated focus. 
2. Kills perfectionism.  Now just getting it done seems fine, really fine.  Warm bodies are fine.  Excellence and competence are no longer necessary.  As long as someone will slap it down any which way, you will weep with gratitude.

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Why You Don’t Ever Want to Give up on Your Dreams, Not Even for a Second.


Someone wrote to me recently, asking if she should just give up on her desire to be a…fill in the blank.  This piece is for her, and for all of you, and for all artists, visionaries, and entrepreneurs who have a hunger for another life, a truer life, the life they came to live. Don’t give up on what you know about yourself.
Don’t EVER give up on your gift dear one. There’s a reason you have the dream you have. It’s a bright commandment, a certified treasure map, the ticket to the rest of your life. 
I really don’t care what it takes for you to stay with it.  Another job.  A smaller living space.  A rearrangement of your brain chemistry.  Hours of healing with a shaman, therapist, or beloved flower journal.  A deeper promise to yourself. 
This much I know.  If you abandon your desires, you’ve abandoned your spirit. Later, you will feel abandoned by God.  I don’t know many people who give up on what they love and desire, and still feel the pulse of a loving universe in their lives. You are still loved.  But you are not still loving yourself, and that’s why you may not feel the presence of the light all around you. 
I am writing to you from the place where dreams HAVE come true.  And keep coming true.  It’s just around the corner.  Just another day.  Or even year or decade.  But when your most meaningful desires come true, they come true, and the time you put in was nothing at all.  A moment worth your whole life time, is worth the moments in your lifetime.  I just wanted to write to you from my place of KNOWING the power of a gift and how it changes your cells, your faith in an invisible love and intelligence, and your comfort in your skin. 
Everything you want is worth everything you have. 
There’s a reason you have the dreams you have.  There’s a reason you vibrate when you think of one life, and not another.  There’s a reason you flush, if you get near your desire.  What’s true is true.  And only what’s true has power.  You didn’t come here to beat back what thrills you.  You came here to walk past every false limitation in your way.
So…when do you feel like giving up?  What helps you not give up?  What are your thoughts about why you have your dreams?  Would LOVE to hear from you!!!!!!! 

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